Today was suppose to be a big day for me... supposedly... My convocation I mean... I was happy, scared, nervous, and full of hope.
After the whole ceremony, well you can guess, the photo sessions and etc... I can't blame my parents for unable to take pictures for me as they already done their best to take good pictures of me in my attire...probably i'm just expecting too much... hoping to take more pics of myself for memories since I'm not really the type of person who fond of taking pictures of myself. Somehow I did not achieve what I wanted... not much pictures for myself to keep... Was hoping to print one out...1 dream crushed.
After a while of all the havoc-ness of walking about trying to make my mark in other's photo, hoping to be tagged more and more in Facebook, but still.... looks like I wasn't manage to do so...mission failed.
I thought of going out with friends today but it seems I feel so far from everyone... Its either i'm blocked myself out or I just failed to mix in with the others and to notice their plans because I wasn't able to locate my usual bunch. With my parents out thinking I should be having fun by then, I actually went out around alone... feeling blank, alone in a dark empty space... looks like I'm turning Lygo-kenophobia (fear of dark and empty spaces)... heart... broken.....
However hope is all not lost... good thing my sis was still able to come... and somehow got hold of my mom in KLCC and we just walked around the mall. Well, thats the end of my 'BIG' day....
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Friday, August 13, 2010
Add-on to the previous post
As what the title states, this is a add-on.
I forgot to say that whenever there is a problem in a relationship, no one should be blamed. Do you know why? Everyone is at fault. If not, it would not be called as a relationship anymore. Think about it, what is the true definition of the word relationship?
This is a common problem among couples these days, things aren't working out, one cheated the other, regardless its the male or female's fault it seems, both has made the error. There is such theory that goes "cause and effect". There must be a cause for things that happened. And that is what happening to most people out there, and that depends on how much they understand about this. But of course emotions got over what is rational, thus.... I guess you guys know what happen next right?
Sounds impossible and naive? Think about it. I've came to realise this, do you?
So next time you got yourself in such heap of a trouble, think before you act.
So long for now^^
I forgot to say that whenever there is a problem in a relationship, no one should be blamed. Do you know why? Everyone is at fault. If not, it would not be called as a relationship anymore. Think about it, what is the true definition of the word relationship?
This is a common problem among couples these days, things aren't working out, one cheated the other, regardless its the male or female's fault it seems, both has made the error. There is such theory that goes "cause and effect". There must be a cause for things that happened. And that is what happening to most people out there, and that depends on how much they understand about this. But of course emotions got over what is rational, thus.... I guess you guys know what happen next right?
Sounds impossible and naive? Think about it. I've came to realise this, do you?
So next time you got yourself in such heap of a trouble, think before you act.
So long for now^^
Thursday, August 12, 2010
Love, Relationship, and others(My POV)
Had a nice discussion with my friends about love, relationship and each others thoughts about it, which triggers me to type on this post.
A romantic relationship. What is it anyway? Is it a relationship with love between both sides? The border-less care and love that is given and received? The feeling of not wanting to lose each other no matter what even that comes against them and to live happily ever after? Or just simply the use of the famous words of mouth "I Love You" that melts the heart regardless to a male or female?
If I say all the above are very common when it comes to dramas and movies or even stories, would you believe? and if I say that all these are just merely the foundation of a relationship that is bolded, CAPITALIZED, or whatever style to highlight, to exaggerate the importance of these key points till it misled many people, including me.
Lately I've came to realise these. Undeniably that these are important, however, like I've mentioned, they are just foundation for the love we seek in a relationship, and we can't depend on them solely. Besides the needs of these lovey-dovey, hocus-pocus, and etc, I realise that the need to think of the future of such relationship. Whether you want to proceed to be more serious in the relationship or not.
After more than 2 years of my relationship, I got to learn that there are also other things that are maintaining the relationship besides love. The commitment towards the relationship, the responsibility, the ability to overlook and overcome situations together, the thinking of seeking for a common goal, the protection (this does not mean guys for girls, also taken account for the other way because to be honest there are no such rights... sorry girls), the patience, the acceptance of each other weakness, and most importantly is the 'green light' in between each others family and friends.
I know of some would think that what I've stated above can be easily overcome by the word "Love". In reality, these only existed in dramas, movies and 'fairy tales' which tends to give the impression that Love can overcome all crap (forgive my choice of word) which eventually ends with "And they live happily ever after.... The End". But to be honest, you gotta be a rare case or you are highly protected where people won't want to do any harm to your relationship, regardless your gf/bf, husband/wife. Are you in that category?
The society now as so we are in and speak has different kind of people, some are kind, some who mocks. And these causes pressure to the romantic relationship, especially other type of relationship like friendship, family that have disagreements or conflicts of some sorts. The mental stress of not wanting to see each other to be hurt is the worst thing one can feel in a relationship, and that breaks the 'bridge' of couples in a romantic relationship regardless of the distance away from the problem because the problem is not solved. Love is not going to magically appear in front of the 'bridge' and say "Abra Kadabra" and turns everything fine, instead it just provide more time for the person to be hurt as those relationships especially family is as important as a romantic relationship. If you don't believe me, let me ask you this, IF you spouse and your family member/very dear friend drops into the ocean, and neither of them know how to swim, who would you save first? Its a double-edged sword I tell you, one judgement can cause a whole lot of difference and lots of damage mentally. And who say time heals? LOL
I'm not saying that anyone is naive, neither do I say I the "man" or "pro" in relationship issues, but rather i categorize myself as fortunate to be able to receive such exposure, experiences that I obtained and to witness examples as close as under one roof. Thus, i share what I know so that all of us can understand the needs and possibly realising what is hindering yourself from a wonderful relationship.^^
So long for now.... really long post I did huh...AGAIN.... XD... anyway, you are free to discuss, comment and even share you experience. Ja~
A romantic relationship. What is it anyway? Is it a relationship with love between both sides? The border-less care and love that is given and received? The feeling of not wanting to lose each other no matter what even that comes against them and to live happily ever after? Or just simply the use of the famous words of mouth "I Love You" that melts the heart regardless to a male or female?
If I say all the above are very common when it comes to dramas and movies or even stories, would you believe? and if I say that all these are just merely the foundation of a relationship that is bolded, CAPITALIZED, or whatever style to highlight, to exaggerate the importance of these key points till it misled many people, including me.
Lately I've came to realise these. Undeniably that these are important, however, like I've mentioned, they are just foundation for the love we seek in a relationship, and we can't depend on them solely. Besides the needs of these lovey-dovey, hocus-pocus, and etc, I realise that the need to think of the future of such relationship. Whether you want to proceed to be more serious in the relationship or not.
After more than 2 years of my relationship, I got to learn that there are also other things that are maintaining the relationship besides love. The commitment towards the relationship, the responsibility, the ability to overlook and overcome situations together, the thinking of seeking for a common goal, the protection (this does not mean guys for girls, also taken account for the other way because to be honest there are no such rights... sorry girls), the patience, the acceptance of each other weakness, and most importantly is the 'green light' in between each others family and friends.
I know of some would think that what I've stated above can be easily overcome by the word "Love". In reality, these only existed in dramas, movies and 'fairy tales' which tends to give the impression that Love can overcome all crap (forgive my choice of word) which eventually ends with "And they live happily ever after.... The End". But to be honest, you gotta be a rare case or you are highly protected where people won't want to do any harm to your relationship, regardless your gf/bf, husband/wife. Are you in that category?
The society now as so we are in and speak has different kind of people, some are kind, some who mocks. And these causes pressure to the romantic relationship, especially other type of relationship like friendship, family that have disagreements or conflicts of some sorts. The mental stress of not wanting to see each other to be hurt is the worst thing one can feel in a relationship, and that breaks the 'bridge' of couples in a romantic relationship regardless of the distance away from the problem because the problem is not solved. Love is not going to magically appear in front of the 'bridge' and say "Abra Kadabra" and turns everything fine, instead it just provide more time for the person to be hurt as those relationships especially family is as important as a romantic relationship. If you don't believe me, let me ask you this, IF you spouse and your family member/very dear friend drops into the ocean, and neither of them know how to swim, who would you save first? Its a double-edged sword I tell you, one judgement can cause a whole lot of difference and lots of damage mentally. And who say time heals? LOL
I'm not saying that anyone is naive, neither do I say I the "man" or "pro" in relationship issues, but rather i categorize myself as fortunate to be able to receive such exposure, experiences that I obtained and to witness examples as close as under one roof. Thus, i share what I know so that all of us can understand the needs and possibly realising what is hindering yourself from a wonderful relationship.^^
So long for now.... really long post I did huh...AGAIN.... XD... anyway, you are free to discuss, comment and even share you experience. Ja~
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Food for thought....
I guess I'm back with the topic about Subang-rians again. This time it hit me again.Well not directly though.
I believe that this is quite a new phenomenon, as many have yet to realise the existence of such issue. Or do we are just ignorant about such incidents as many have yet to experience things like this? More and more people out there have various prejudice and bad perceptions about us, and we are doing nothing about it.
The common reactions were:
1. It doesn't matter.
2. Aiya, Don't care lah.
3. I don't care. I am me, I don't care what they say. Their problem lah.
What we did not realise is that, everyone time we ignore this fact that these problem do exist, we are just running away, avoiding it. What many do not realise is that, we may withstand such issue or to refuse to acknowledge it, we are not able to solve the problem and may cause problems to the next generation.
Again, after what I've mentioned so far, I can predict the following reactions:
1. Cheh, think too much lah this person.
2. Crap. Illogical. BullS**t.
3. Amateur.
4. Etc.
But think to yourself again, will you be able to withstand such a problem? If your kids is experiencing such a problem, will you be able to teach them to get through such things? Are you sure that they can overcome it like you do? You sure that would not break down?
With such points, I believe all of us regardless where you are from have to power to change this if everyone of us realise about this. Not just acknowledge, but to also change what is the root of the problem.
For instance, I've just met this problem recently, and because of this my dear girlfriend is afraid of Subang-rians. A simple error in the webpage, a misunderstanding, an accusation and an attitude = problem for me that is totally hard to solve. If these things were to carefully thought off before advancement of the step misunderstanding, all things are done. But there are some certain thing about Subang-rians, even I do admit I was once like this, that has caused me whole lots of problem. Who is feeling all these? Me, who is stuck in the middle. And only a handful would truly understand this situation.
To add on, (so that I don't seemed bias...LOL) this is the same like how we thought of people from rural regions when we see them looking blur when dealing with things in the urban city. We tend to comment, and even mock and laugh at them. But if you were to be in their shoes, how would you feel? Food for thought...
I believe that this is quite a new phenomenon, as many have yet to realise the existence of such issue. Or do we are just ignorant about such incidents as many have yet to experience things like this? More and more people out there have various prejudice and bad perceptions about us, and we are doing nothing about it.
The common reactions were:
1. It doesn't matter.
2. Aiya, Don't care lah.
3. I don't care. I am me, I don't care what they say. Their problem lah.
What we did not realise is that, everyone time we ignore this fact that these problem do exist, we are just running away, avoiding it. What many do not realise is that, we may withstand such issue or to refuse to acknowledge it, we are not able to solve the problem and may cause problems to the next generation.
Again, after what I've mentioned so far, I can predict the following reactions:
1. Cheh, think too much lah this person.
2. Crap. Illogical. BullS**t.
3. Amateur.
4. Etc.
But think to yourself again, will you be able to withstand such a problem? If your kids is experiencing such a problem, will you be able to teach them to get through such things? Are you sure that they can overcome it like you do? You sure that would not break down?
With such points, I believe all of us regardless where you are from have to power to change this if everyone of us realise about this. Not just acknowledge, but to also change what is the root of the problem.
For instance, I've just met this problem recently, and because of this my dear girlfriend is afraid of Subang-rians. A simple error in the webpage, a misunderstanding, an accusation and an attitude = problem for me that is totally hard to solve. If these things were to carefully thought off before advancement of the step misunderstanding, all things are done. But there are some certain thing about Subang-rians, even I do admit I was once like this, that has caused me whole lots of problem. Who is feeling all these? Me, who is stuck in the middle. And only a handful would truly understand this situation.
To add on, (so that I don't seemed bias...LOL) this is the same like how we thought of people from rural regions when we see them looking blur when dealing with things in the urban city. We tend to comment, and even mock and laugh at them. But if you were to be in their shoes, how would you feel? Food for thought...
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